a friend of mine from california and his w, who i will be visiting this summer, really would like me to bring my WHOLE family along. in a perfect world it would be a fantastic trip. they too have young kids and we could all spend our time at the beach or disney or whatever. however, at this point, this is just a pipe dream of mine.
anyways, i did inform them of why my w won't be joining us. they have been great about it. they told me how they too had seperated for a while and how they worked it out. his w has been much trying to help me. here is a letter she sent me this weekend. i want to know what everyone thinks of her advice....please!
i ended my last email with "woman always want what they can't have!"
here's her response:
that is true, but you not bringing it up doesn't help your case. you can't expect her to just choose you, the other guy isn't going to sit idly by and let her make her choice, he's going to plead his case, so to speak, and so should you. and i personally think yours is MUCH stronger! she loved you enough to marry you, and have a family with you, he doesn't have that. he's probably still wondering exactly how she feels about him. you know how she's capable of feeling about you. but you have to remind her of that. TELL her you want her to choose you, and give your family another chance. tell you want D2 to be with both of you, not some stranger. tell her how much you have missed her, and that you'll take it as slow as she needs to for you to prove you've changed. but whatever you tell her, it has to come from your heart. women are emotional beings and we can tell when something sounds rehearsed or insincere. just be real with her and let her know, that you know, what a colossal mistake you made and that you'll spend the rest of your life fixing it. and dude... of COURSE she's having her cake and eating it too!!! wouldn't you if you were in her position? don't you think she deserves to feel twice as loved after she went so long not feeling loved at all? i don't mean that to hurt your feelings, but you know you didn't give her what she needed and so of course she's enjoying the attention. don't take it personally. the most important thing is that you tell her (without pressuring or bugging her) how much YOU want her. otherwise, if you sit back silently, she's going to fall right into the arms of the person showing her the most love. there's my expert analysis...
