Abbey, I am sorry I am here as well. He has already told me that he doesn't love me so I guess there is not much more he can do to hurt me. I guess, I am just trying to find out so he does not continue to treat me like a fool. Also, so it will be easier to leave as I am having a hard time letting go.
Yes, he just turned 37 and has been tanning, working out, got a whole sleeve of tattoos in the last month (never had a tattoo before), interest in head banging music, got a few new clothes but not overboard, going out drinking with "friends" at night and staying out to just right before he has to go to work (third shift). Wow, when I actually type it out it seems so obvious. My stomach is churning right now.
The only thing that confuses me is that he doesn't seem to be spending that much time away from home, especially on the weekends. I don't know maybe OW works weekends or something. My H took off his wedding ring a couple of months ago, although to his defense he did tell me it was over.
I just found out he has consulted a lawyer and started filling out affidavits. He needs to get information from me in order to complete the forms and he hasn't said anything to me yet. I found the paperwork "accidently". I think he is in the process of saving up for a divorce.
What started it all was a secret cell phone I found in Jan. He told me that it was to call a lawyer. Then, I caught him trying to solicit on a local swingers site. I know there wasn't a OW cause he would't have needed the site if there was. So, I guess that is what is so confusing. If there is a OW, then it has to be in the last 4-6 weeks. I think more than anything if there isn't a OW yet, he is certainly setting himself up to try to attract one.
