I did not see your responses until now, Starsky. Some delay in forum postings for some reason.
Thanks for the input. I might have made changes to it, had I not jumped the gun.
Truly, this is a work in progress for me. I have always been passive or passive / aggressive. Being more assertive and stating my opinions more openly has always been a challenge.
I really do appreciate the input of everyone here. I am learning and will make changes to act more accordingly.
Not an excuse, I take responsibility for this and should have been more... better... as a H and parent. When I became involved with W as she was exiting her abusive relationship (with bio father of D13), I "gave" a lot to W and S13 to allow them to work through their issues. There was a co-dependency that I worked hard to reduce. I was successful to some degree, but could likely have been better.
But allowing that relationship (not being "stronger"), I set precedence to how W would control parenting and M concerns and arrangements from day 1.
My bad... I have learned and will continue to learn and BE better.
