Just an update.....as of 945 this morning I am no longer married..hardest thing I have ever done....I almost fainted while waiting for our turn....the div's before us were being handed out like nothing..... I sat by my husband and he kept looking at me..I guess afraid I was going to pass out or cause a scene....but I am going out with my dignity and remain calm and act as a lady should act... He and o/w plan to marry soon...we had a heart to heart last night when he came to our daughter....I broke down couldn't help it... I hope and pray that this will just be a bad memory in my life. I stood for 4+yrs.and am still standing even after today,maybe one day I won't, but I am trusting God with my life.He has been my provider, my comforter, and my reedeemer....may God break the strongholds in his life before it's too late..... He says he will always love me,thinks of us often and the rest our family, but she makes him happy....and I love him enough for him to find happiness in his new life. I know one day he will realize what he has lost.I was not the perfect wife, but he wasn't the perfect husband either... We were the only ones there w/o a lawyer....we had nothing left to split up....just the child support.... Going to take a nap now...I feel exhausted.... Thanks for listening...Irma _________________________ M/54 2 kids 26m /15f H/48 M/1984 Mom dies 11/06/ Dad dies 12/07 MLC 01/07 clearly visible Affair 06/07 Bomb 10/07 He is totaly gone 06/07 lots of "I dont know" until he moves her in 08/08