Just an update.....as of 945 this morning I am no longer married..hardest thing I have ever done....I almost fainted while waiting for our turn....the div's before us were being handed out like nothing..... I sat by my husband and he kept looking at me..I guess afraid I was going to pass out or cause a scene....but I am going out with my dignity and remain calm and act as a lady should act... He and o/w plan to marry soon...we had a heart to heart last night when he came to our daughter....I broke down couldn't help it... I hope and pray that this will just be a bad memory in my life. I stood for 4+yrs.and am still standing even after today,maybe one day I won't, but I am trusting God with my life.He has been my provider, my comforter, and my reedeemer....may God break the strongholds in his life before it's too late..... He says he will always love me,thinks of us often and the rest our family, but she makes him happy....and I love him enough for him to find happiness in his new life. I know one day he will realize what he has lost.I was not the perfect wife, but he wasn't the perfect husband either... We were the only ones there w/o a lawyer....we had nothing left to split up....just the child support.... Going to take a nap now...I feel exhausted.... Thanks for listening...Irma _________________________ M/54 2 kids 26m /15f H/48 M/1984 Mom dies 11/06/ Dad dies 12/07 MLC 01/07 clearly visible Affair 06/07 Bomb 10/07 He is totaly gone 06/07 lots of "I dont know" until he moves her in 08/08
I know you have been through the wringer with this man. They say in MLC it has to get worse before it gets better. I know that this is pretty worse but now he is totally the OW problem. His pain will not go away just because he has divorced you. I know this is incredibly hard for you but it will get better. This I am confidant of.
I am 4 years post-bomb and 6 months out of the divorce gate. I felt one advantage to waiting was that a lot of the emotion was drained and I could just be sad and deal and was able to move on. I am not going to say that it is easy but there is life on the other side.
One thing w/being divorced is that it does free you to move on. Dating made me realize there are more fish in the sea. It is also fun! Current Fish is a good catch and I am surprised and pleased and honored to know him.
Dating expanded my horizons and I am happier and more in touch with the old Forward. I was at an event I would never have gone to w.ex.
OW left X about 3 months post divorce. When there was a real problem.
X immediately picked up another GF but at this point I realize that he needs to deal with his own problems. He didn't see me as a possibility and still doesn't.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
I am close to a month into divorcehood. I am so sorry for your pain. I wish I had great words of advice, but I don't. You are in my thoughts and prayers though.
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
Praying for you. I got divorced at the end of 2007. Ex is going no where with OW, he won't marry her. He still remains though a legend in his own mind. ......
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
