So yesterday (Sunday)I get up and my stxw and I make up a really nice breakfast. Her, I, and our 21 year old son eat, have morning coffee, read the Sunday paper, and chit chat. Then, my S and I get cleaned up and go to meet my D (24) at church. W doesn't go, as usual, even though she has been invited to join us. Before we leave, her and I have a small arguement. Not really an arguement, she wants us to take her car which is newer and in better shape than our other car. I told her we would be just fine. She would not let the matter drop, and kept insisting that we take the nicer car. I finally told her, Look I'm not gonna argure with you about this. We are taking the other car, and we will be fine. See you later. She seemed a little perturbed, but let it drop. Later that evening I look at our phone records online and see that OM called not 10 minutes after we left. They talked for about 40 min.
After Church, me and the kids go out for lunch. We eat, have a cup of coffee, visit with each other, and just kind of hang out for a little bit. Then we took off and went shopping. D was helping me "update" my wardrobe. LOL. W sends me random texts, which I do not answer right away. Some I don't answer at all. When I finally get home (around 7) she is obviously miffed. She doesn't say anything, but is very short and terse. Throws in little comments here and there about me not telling her how long I'd be gone, or where we were going. Tried hard to act like she didn't care, and maybe she didn't. But like I said - miffed. Maybe it was just because she couldn't plan on dinner until we got home, and she was hungry. Who knows.
On the D front, I asked her a week ago to list the things that she wants or needs and to include what she is asking for financially, so I could try to plan for it best is I could. I got a hand written note that just said "Will Do!" However, not a single word or item so far. I had been trying to get her to go to mediation and settle this thing as best as possible, and she finally did at the last minute before our first court date. But I can't get her to do anything. She tells me that she is, and then at the last minute I find out she didn't do it and I get caught with my pants down. So today I am hiring a lawyer. I was hoping that we would work things out on our own and avoid giving all our money to the lawyers, but it looks like that won't happen. She has made me believe that she is dissatisfied with hers and that she was going to release her so we could mediate this on our own, but I think that she never intended that at all. I have been temporarily outmaneuvered. So calling a lawyer today. I guess the games, and the beginning of the end, has started. Never wanted to go to war, but I am not seeing any other viable option out there. We'll see.
