He's not gone yet but says his feelings are gone

[Croppin]

Hurt-but-Hopeful, Do try to stay positive. I too am still living with H. He says he does not want to give up OW. It is hard. I've signed up for three 5K runs and am losing tons of weight (people really noticing now) and am out reconnecting with friends. I pay attention to my appearance at all times now (for me) and focus on my children and extended family (including his which I am close too). It seems to me, that me acting "as if" is paying off and I'm seeing small successes. He's still thinking separation, and I've set some clear boundaries on what I will tolerate as far as OW (as in I will not be openly disrespected in the town we live in for example, and since I do all the finances, he had better figure out a way to keep any activity out of my face). I don't push, because obviously when I found out, I asked for him to give her up. That was not going to happen, but it does feel good to draw some parameters where I keep a level of respect in my home. Hope that makes sense.

Also what helped me was I set a date in my mind that I was going to do nothing out of anger, hurt, desperation or depression. That sort of helped me on the days that were harder. Any sort of move to separate or leave would not come from me for a certain period of time. If he wants out so badly, then go. I'm not going to do it for him. He's still here and it's been 6 weeks with no indication of him making any sort of decision. Stay strong. We are here for you.