I only hope I've been doing "the right thing". I trust that the kids are physically safe, but emotionally...
And I mean that more specifically from an environmental perspective. W went to a social Saturday night with (enabling) gf and husband, OM35, some new guy I don't think I know, and I don't know who else. Enabling gf left her two kids at the house as well while they were at the social. D13 also had two gf's over. All under the "watchful eye" of FS16. I didn't want to ask D8 because it's not her responsibility to have to worry about these things. Anyhow, enabling gf and her husband, OM35, and new guy all stayed over because... "they were too drunk to drive home".
Without a doubt, it's the "right answer". But my question is, why is W bringing drunk people into my kids home. Alcohol is playing a huge factor in W's "new life". This is what my kids are learning over there. I am saying that I don't feel alcohol is a bad thing, drinks with friends, going out and having drinks, etc. But exposure to excessive use of alcohol... this is a bit of a rowdy bunch when they're drunk. Enabling gf also has sexuality issues based on her childhood. There's serious boundaries being crossed, here. I don't know where the "sober adult" is in this equation, to protect the children and reduce their exposure to this environment.
But here is what I know. Financially, I am getting closer to go to court and get an interim order or final order on custody. Also, W is finally going to seminar which instructs parents on the effects D and Sep has on kids. I am hoping that she will get value out of that.
And through the seminar, maybe she will change her tune. And once I am financially able, I will ask the courts to help. And also, I'm hoping that as time goes on, the pressures of being a single parent will drive her to send the kids to me more often. Hopefully more often when she goes out and parties.
I will apply your instructions, Forest. And I will post back here.
