Going to the rec center ounds like the start of a good plan to GAL. Keep brainstorming for more things. I think in my experience it took a little while and then it started rolling.
I hate the L stuff, but it sounds like you need to protect yourself.
W went to bar tonite, called me and asked if I would like to join her not as a DATE but hanging out. I did not bite at the bait. W rationalized that it was crunch time and she needed it. Whatever.I feel she asked me to join her so she could rationalize her behavior, 1 hour promise to S11 turned to 3hrs. now she texted me to "call me" let her rot.
had a good day with the pastor and walked out feeling good.
Going to church tomorrow and will see if W wants to go. no expectations. She texte'd me several times today and acutually called when I didn't respond.n W explained that she was going to bar after school and came back at around 6:00 pm, a first we will see where this goes
Bobby I'm sorry your hurting. I wish there was some comforting words I could offer you right now, but I'm hurting pretty badly myself right now. Just know you aren't alone, and I will pray for you.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
Had to work yesterday,No contact at all from W. Around 4 W called and asked when I will be home so she could make dinner???? WTF! Got home and she decided on takeout instead, came back in 1 hour and sat on the couch with kids and I. No R talks no physical contact ect. She is graduating May 6th with masters degree in social work (crazy huh!) I was offer to attend but my job entails every saturday so I wont be there
Really hurts like hell she also made a famed picture montage of "her life" Included pics of everyone even my family but I was not included... went till I was at work by myself before I lost it
So hard to detatch,dont really know what that means,i need examples feels like its getting close to the end, overwhelmed by despair most of the time but I dont show it to her
So hard to detatch,dont really know what that means,i need examples feels like its getting close to the end, overwhelmed by despair most of the time but I dont show it to her.
Simple version:
Detachment is the process of having your emotions be less and less triggered or influenced by your spouse, especially sadness and anger.
It only comes with time, and you have to have the mental will to believe you can move on and be happy without her.
If you cannot open yourself to multiple possible future scenarios for your life, you'll find yourself "stuck" and terminally, emotionally "dependent" on the other person.
Got to get past that now. It's not attractive.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
