I've just received this from my W, a bit of a bolt out of the blue really. I've yet to reply and would like some feedback from anyone as to the best way to word my response. The strange thing is the way that the email is written just does not sound like my W at all. It is almost as if someone else wrote it for her. She sounds completely detached and emotionless. Maybe it is time to hang up my boots, I really don't know. Please advise!!
FF999
"I am writing to you to make it very clear so that you fully understand that we are over and there will not be any reconcillation.
I am sorry if I have misled you, I know I probably have, but I really do not want to go back ever again. You confused me when you gave up the weed but it was too late as I had lost all the love I had ever had for you a long time ago and I know it will never come back. I gave you 25 years, and have some happy memories and we did have three great kids also to be grateful for. Unfortunately, it all went wrong a long time ago and I did not see it at the time or maybe I did not want to see it because it was too painful to deal with. For a long time I thought it was me, and tried everything to work things out. I am sorry to say however, knowing how you feel, that I no longer love you and have moved on with my life.
I know how hard this will be for you and I am truly sorry. What you never understood was that I felt so low a lot of the time because I could not make you see what was happening to us. I cried many tears over the years, and I had thought, having looked at other peoples relationships that we had something special, so stuck at it. It would have been so different if you had played a bigger part in our marriage. Anyway, I dont want to over old ground about ifs, and whys so I will stop now.
I know you can be happy again, as I always said, you will give someone else what you should have given me, because we all learn from our mistakes. Please dont get in touch to talk about it, I really have moved on and I am happy. It goes without saying, you need to keep in though with the children though, afterall you are still their Father. I wish you well and do hope you take care of yourself."
p.s. I will still be selling the house and as we agreed 50/50. I will be divorcing you at some time, but that is not a priority at the moment. Take care
Me 48 W 49 D19, S17, D14 Together 25yr, Married 22yr Me checked-out July 10, back Sept 10 W checked out Nov 10 Separated Dec 10 ILYBNILWY 2nd Apr 11 We're finished + D bomb 17th Apr 11
