Last night went mostly well with only one hiccup. We got dinner at a local place, then rented some movies to watch at home. One was an old horror/suspense movie from the 70's. Very terrible... The other was Scott Pilgrim which well describes me and her to a T. I am Scott and she is Ramona.... Even to her getting upset cause the character stole her hair lol. It is a very funny movie meant for 20 somethings, but man it mirrored me and my W. Even at the last part where he defeats her final suitor (there is seven btw) with the "sword of self respect". A few minutes earlier he had tried the "sword of love" and failed miserably. Confusing, yes I know, watch the movie Ultimately though it was self respect for himself that won her back, not needy clingy love. Sounds a lot like DB doesn't it? Anyway we had a lot of fun and even made those margaritas she wanted to make. The drinking didn't spur spontaneous ML, and thats because she temporarily lost her temper because I didn't know I had to wash the limes before squeezing them. (Guy mistake I know, but in her mind I should have known.) Because of this she didn't drink enough to loosen up, but oh well. I feel wrong getting sex this way anyway, and would rather be patient. (It's hard though). I made no big deal of it, we watched the movie kept laughing, before we went to bed I could tell things were a little awkward. (She was very likely still angry about the limes). I picked a play-fight and we started a 10 minute tickle fight.
This morning I tried to gently wake her up. (She hates being woken up, yet gets angry at other people when they let her sleep in sigh...)I got close gently started to say good morning, I didn't get to finish the first syllable in "good morning" when she woke up screaming. (She has been doing this a lot lately). Gets mad if I let her sleep in, gets mad because she gets horribly frightened when I wake her up, no matter how gently I try to do it. We have planned to drive to the nearest major city, to pick up some graphic novels. The land mines are deployed everywhere today....
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As to your assessment I whole heartedly agree, there have been some control and independence issues I have had to rectify. One of the things I had to work on was not being so helpful. Turns out she hates that, and as an idiot I in a way resented that she didn't want my help. I only ever try to give suggestions if asked, for example she is planning a trip to see her favorite band, and I had to control myself and let her plan it herself. Even when she finally did ask for help I started doing things my way, and she started getting upset so I had to back down and let her do it her way.
Ultimately though it was self respect for himself that won her back, not needy clingy love. Sounds a lot like DB doesn't it? Anyway we had a lot of fun and even made those margaritas she wanted to make. The drinking didn't spur spontaneous ML, and thats because she temporarily lost her temper because I didn't know I had to wash the limes before squeezing them. (Guy mistake I know, but in her mind I should have known.) Because of this she didn't drink enough to loosen up, but oh well. I feel wrong getting sex this way anyway, and would rather be patient. (It's hard though). I made no big deal of it, we watched the movie kept laughing, before we went to bed I could tell things were a little awkward. (She was very likely still angry about the limes). I picked a play-fight and we started a 10 minute tickle fight. 
