I just read your update. I am so sorry for your kids. Is there something YOU could do to make them feel better? Are you talking to them about it? I know their R with ex is not your business but when it is about your kids maybe your role could be more active in relation to bringing up the topic, discussing, even "excusing" him in the sense that "people make horrible mistakes etc etc"...? I dont know if I am clear... Hugs K
