First things first. We usually do what we know. What you knew was how to be like your mother in some ways. Now you know better, so you'll do better, It will take time and hard work, but, I know you can do it.
Let me just tell you first of all, I was the queen of fear. Still can be at times. The thing about it is it keeps you stuck. It saps your energy and stops you moving forward.
But the thing is, if you look at it right in the eye, it takes away its power. So, what if your h has an affair? Think about it. Picture what it would look like. My h did. I thought when it happened I would wind up in a hospital. You know what? I didnt. I cried, I was angry. But, my life went on.
Here's why. There is nothing you can do about it if it happens. You have two beautiful children who count on you. You are their touchstone. If you are ok, they will be, too. They are watching how you navigate through this.
So, it is important for you to contine on your journey. Become the person you were meant to be. Dont worry about what ifs.
I like your list. I like the new mindset, too.
DG, you will get through this. I promise. You know how I know? Because you survived an extremely difficult childhood.
You just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You follow your path. You will be glad you did.
