Own your part in the breakdown of the marriage, dig to find out YOUR triggers in that breakdown...
Find out who you are under all of those layers of crap that have piled up around you over the years....
Still...
The number one thing is to take care of the girls...
I know you had a nice convo , and I'm not asking you to go straight for the throat on this...Just keep it in perspective.
In my experience, an MLCers word is only good for a day or two before it changes.....
Don't let emotions take over and drop your guard...
Think with your head on these decisions and not with your heart....
Mach has given you great advice here and let me further say that no matter what changes you make because of what she says about the breakdown of your marriage, you must understand that it would not matter. She has to have a reason to blame you. It could have been that you part your hair to the left or that you snore at night. I am not saying not to fix the snoring, or lose weight or to do whatever you see in the mirror that you need to fix. Just understand that it is not going to FIX your marriage. Your marriage is over, maybe you will be able to build a new marriage out of the ashes of this one, but you must wait for the fire to burn out before you start construction.
And Mach is absolutlety right about keeping your guard up. Sometimes they might be nice because they want something from you. Once they get it they spin on a dime.
