Do you know, in some ways his hostility makes it easier. If he was nice, I would find it even more inexplicable. I see clearly he isn't who he was. Mila and others have posted how awful their h's look, Mine too. Looks terrible, and is miserable.
I think in my case, deep down he knows he has been a total fool, and cannot sort it out, and he is angry with himself, and projects it onto me. He was angry with the kids, and now he isn't. but he won't do the necessary to rebuld the relationsihps with them. He expects them just to pick up where they were, and it isn't going to happen.
He has admitted that what I said to him was true - about not starting a new r before he had dealt with his old one, but that is as far as it goes. No inner journey, no facing himself. Too painful for him. I think if we had been less happy it might be easier for him to face the past, if that makes sense? You might think he would be more eager to return, but that isn't how it works!
