Standing for my live-in MLC'er/WAS

[angel61]

I'm curious. What about Cabanatuan? Is this about the rescue of the POW's after the Bataan death march?

About running - for now I am over that period when I felt so intensely the need to run, to escape. D felt it too, I think, and even told me that during the time H was away for a 3 week trip, she felt so relieved that she wasn't sure she wanted him back as well.

But both D and I really want our family intact. Its as though we are standing together for this M.

Essential to staying sr=trong is to find a way to manage the hurt and pain. In DB terms we say detach. But how? D thinks she has found a way - cutting, and actually she even told me that she will teach me how to do it, that it wasn't painful.

In her twisted way, she was offering me a way to maintain the status quo.

I declined and told her there are less painful ways to do it.... and that we should work on those.

And of course, I assured her that I am not one to escape my problems, she has never seen me do that, and I always have been the fix it person in the past (although this is one that I cannot fix actively, but if I could wait it out, i will!)