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I just made the payment this morning.


Your reasons sounds okay on paper, but it's not working.

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take the kids to various places when I'm not available


Aren't you forgetting? According to her, they aren't her problem.

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she is currently unemployed with no income


And she knows you will take care of any bill she runs up.

If she never has to deal with consequences, why do you think she'll suddenly change from what she's currently doing?

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I realize she also uses her car to go out to bars and sporting events and other WAW pursuits, but I have no control over that


Well, if you did, you just shot that chance down by providing her transportation to get there.

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My only hope is that she gets a job soon so she can start to carry her own weight.


Listen, if she gets a job, I doubt it will be with the intentions of helping you. More likely, she'll put it to finding her own place.

You have to do something different b/c this doesn't cut it. What are you teaching her? What are you teaching your son?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!