1. Look for changes/new interests - my H was never interested in taking pictures, sudenly he was taking pics of everywhere we went and sending them to friends (OW included)
2. Sudden interest in music - especially love songs, and again, sendng links to friends, OW included (my H sent links to my D as well)
3. Efforts to look good, younger. My H started using cologne when he never did before. Big red flag for me. Started going to the gym, buying expensive clothes, even started putting anti wrinkle cream on his face!
4. Changing interests - mirroring what OW likes? Younger interests ? My H started getting interested in skiing, which he used to think was so lame! he also lost interest in his old pursuits, hunting and fishing. I guess those things are not too acceptable to OW. But lately, he has gotten tired I guess of trying to do what is not natural to him and has gone back to his hunting : )
5. Initially, I noticed that H had moments where he was cold and distant, alternating with too much solicitousness and concern. I think at that time either he was fighting feelings for OW by trying to revivie feelings for me (My H is actually a nice person, that is why I could not give up!), then later on the guilt made him over compensate and treat me special. That was at a period similar to yours - post-bomb but before he admitted EA.
6. Texting of course, as everybody says here. I think texting is the devils tool!
7. I saw him with an old debit card we never used anymore in his wallet.
8. Unexplained expenses in your joint account - nt all the time though.
9. Sometimes H would criticize OW, the first times I remember I asked him about OW, when I had no idea yet but I suspect he was starting to get atracted to her, it happened so fast (who he hired a couple of months ago) he said, oh, she's not pretty, she's flaky, etc. enough to make me think he was not interested.
10. Suddenly, you have nothing much to talk about - I think they save the more interesting topics of convo for OW.
11. Using laptop with screen facing away from anybody else - my H used to sit on the sofa, now he sits on the corner chair or against a wall.
12. Covering the phone screen whie texting, reading email, putting phone on silent mode
13. suddenly using skype, or free text applications on Iphone
14. unexplained pictures on iphone, from places OW went, not necessarily with OW
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
