Unwavering hostility

[BeingMe]

Thanks for visiting my thread, Beatrice. It helps when I get feedback; helps me not just over-react.

I cannot imagine how you manage to deal with your sitch. At least, my H is generous, will chat, and is kinda like a weird family member who supports me. Like a close cousin. Haha!

Yeah, I wondered about the friendship part too ... I think I can be with my H to a point, but yours sure seems to have fallen into another body that is unrecognizable to you.

Your H seems to have turned into an illogical fool. I guess, as long as it makes sense to him, then it must be true. What would it matter how you feel about him? (There must still be feeling for you deep down.) He told himself it didn't matter when he left for the OW. These WAS/MLCers don't realise that the common denominator in all future relationships is them and their baggage. If they don't sort it out ... all other R's will falter, and probably fail.

Which is why working on yourself in DBing is more important than actually winning back the WAS. You don't want to mess up any other future R's.

Take care.