Thank you for the very helpful insight. I very much appreciate your thoughtful post, however, I am sorry that you are here to make it. It is great you have done so well. I know it would have been a tremendous amount of work on your part. Give your ex's latest train wreck, you are wise to stay clear and not be involved as his next one.
One of the reasons I came back to post is that sometimes we need an outside perspective to point out the truths we either subconsiously or outright deny; and you have helped me out with that in a gentle mannner. Thank you.
I think my problem is to accept that those days as a happy family are in the past, that so much damage has been done and the choices she has made have forever closed that door; to put away the what ifs. It would be easy for her to play both sides against the middle and in her advantage. I just have to stop being one of the sides.
Thanks Cat. It seems I have some more work to do ahead of me.
