It is a fearful thing; "What message am I sending my spouse?"
It's the thing that saves you the most.
It's not giving up, it sounds like it, but it really isn't.
If you love something set it free, If it comes back it was meant to be.
We all know the rest, but if we truely knew it, truly? If we could accept it...oh man, we wouldn't be wallowing here.
Yeah, I said wallowing. Because:
If it doesn't come back, Hunt it down and kill it.
Seems more on par.
We tend to hurt the things that hurt us.
OR in a more passive role, we wear our wounds and don't allow them to heal so the world around us can see our hurt. Hoping for comfort. And we get it, and we don't grow tough. But the one we REALLY want to notice the one who is hurting us, well this backfires, and after time this even makes them more callous.
We all have a time frame when dealing with 'helpless' people, before we no longer care. A person who is capable but chooses not to help themselves...doesn't sit well with our social and pack mentality. The helpless person becomes a liability to the pack.
I do not wish to put words in AK mouth.
What I took away from what he said.
Live.
Live well.
Live well for yourself.
And I agree.
There was no way my wife was coming back to me if I wasn't doing that. If I was still 'stuck' If I wore my pain, not hers, around her all the time we did interact, she would have seen me as a pathetic.
I lived, I strived to become a better person. My interactions with her were as I told her they would be, I lived up to my word. I strived to be the guy who posts here.
I didn't wallow.
And when she broke down, broke apart and looked around.
She saw me.
But I didn't do that for her.
I gave her a chance, because that is who I am.
Who are you?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
