Hi, This is my first post but I have been here reading for several months. This is a summary of my situation.
My H walked out on me and our two children S16 & D13 in August of this year. He has moved in with his father. He has not talked to me about why he left - just said he was not happy. I did get the ILYNILWY speech but it was pretty much out of the blue. He has said that he will talk to me when he is ready to but not before.
Yesterday, H confessed that he had feelings for my best friend. She is married and has two children the same age as my kids and they are also best friends. My friend has also confessed to having a "connection" with my husband. Surprise, Surprise her marriage is having issues also.
This confession is not really a suprise to me because I knew that there was a reason he left. He says that is not 100% why he left - but I am not buying it. He had been very detached and easily angered prior to his leaving. We did have one conversation about 3 days after he left where we decided to take two weeks and then meet and talk about what we both wanted out of our marriage and what it would take for us to get back together. He came for the meeting but would not talk saying that I was not being reasonable.
At this point I know that this is just an EA and has not gone PA. My friend has confessed this connection with my H to her H. Obviously this has caused more stress in her marriage.
My H has been going out of his way to attend sporting events that BF's children are in but not even talking to our S16, he does try to keep his relationship with D13. He has apparently already created a new "family" with my BF and her kids, at least in his mind.
As I have been going through this for several months and have been watching H, I am pretty sure this is MLC in a big way. He has said that he has not been happy for years, we would not have married if we had dated longer, etc. We have been married for 16 years and I know my H very well. He has been acting like a totally different person. Very strange.
I am really just venting here. I know there are no easy answers to what is happening but I have not seen any other threads that deal with the EA being with the BF of W. Has anyone else been in this situation? The strange thing is that I am getting the message that I just need to be patient and all of this will work out for the better.
