2step,

You are spending a lot of time telling her how much you love and want her. I would suggest easing up on this. It is doing nothing to convince her of her feelings for you. ie. she already knows, you don't need to keep reminding her. I feel it is too much pressure.

I suggest you focus more on being a strong and positive person in her presence, cut back on the R talk a little so you don't seem quite as needy. Don't get me wrong, a good percentage of your conversation is right on target, but you tend to drift back into sections of "I can convince her".

I would suggest not asking her to re-marry, not even as a joke. Let her come to that conclusion later if that is where things go.

Asking for sex also. Now you probably think I am gonna 2x4 you for going there. No, I am not, at least not for wanting it, just the way you are going about it. Asking for sex is needy and desperate. Not at all attractive, and setting yourself up for rejection. I have resolved never to do this in my M, and it has improved things a lot. I suggest you take a more confident approach and just escalate when you are close and/or kissing. Tease her a bit and joke about it. Whatever you do, just don't ask her for it.

She may still reject your advances, but the #1 most critical thing is you dont let it phase you. Shrug it off, remain positive. Tease her a little and laugh about it.

Strong and positive in her presence no matter what.

Pulling for ya bud.


Spellfire aka Mike

"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A