Signs of an affair

[abbey1989]

Hi Lily,

I am so sorry you are here!

Although my H's A has not been completely confirmed (no hard evidence...no getting caught in the act or anything), I am quite certain something has been going on for about 2 years.

Signs:

1) He turned 50.
2) He started going to the gym. A lot! Morning & night.
3) Took up new hobbies such as bike riding and motorcycle riding.
4) Bought a classic convertible
5) Bought a motorcycle
6) Less interest in kids day to day activities where previously he was very involved.
7) Gone for periods of time each weekend where no one in the family can reach him by cell (not even kids). Excuses: Bike riding or motorcycle riding, hiking or gym.
8) Cell phone charger in his car that doesn't fit his regular cell phone.
9) Accidentally called me from what I believe to be his secret cell phone and then lied about it.
10) Left a message for OW (I believe) from that same phone that he called me on.
11) Hasn't worn his wedding ring in 2 years...."too tight". Even after working out and losing weight. Hmmmmmm.....
12) Found my H's name on some of OW's new home permits.
13) When confronted twice in the last two years, he denies everything.

Starsky is right about the texting. Before my H got a secret cell phone, he was texting/picture texting with OW who at that time was a married client of ours. At the time I wasn't worried because he had reason to be in communication. Boy was I naive!

So, I would start with the cell phone. But I have to warn you...sometimes I wish I hadn't snooped because whenever I find something it only hurts me.