I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[awest1217]

That is where I am at as well, but it doesn't seem to bother me much for very long. It is just bad when something big happens on top of other stuff.

H's L is also horrible and this could have been done at the beginning of the year, but he wouldn't do what H said. STBXW really needs to reel in her L and make him do what she wants. I think that is one part people in a D don't realize. Your L is not in charge, you are and if you let your L be in charge and he/she is bad...you end up paying a bunch.

Hope it all gets worked out so you don't have to go to court, but at least the end is in sight.