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[Bolt]

Ok.
Not so good. I can't help thinking about all of the lies now. She told me that my oldest needed a tutor in math. That's why she took over $1000 out of our account (that has been closed now). We never discussed the need for a tutor and I thought we were coparenting at the least.

I emailed the teacher and asked how my D was doing and she said she was doing fine. So now I don't believe a word my W says.

The hard part is that I want to communicate with her ONLY regarding the kids. Why can't the kids be separate from the crap we are going through?

I'm having a very hard time knowing another man is in their house. He's cooking them dinner, hiking with them in the park, playing with them, taking them for ice cream. This is a guy that THEY JUST MET! and he is seemingly taking my place.

My stomach is in knots about this.

I did talk to FIL yesterday and this morning. He has always been a very easy going yet fair and honest man. He reached out to me yesterday and I was very appreciative. I told him that I'm sorry this all happened but he had to believe that I did everything to make this work. He did agree to that. He was also very upset that his daughter was saying bad things about me to the girls. I told him this morning about another man living in the house and he was very upset.

She's losing everything right now. I want to take those girls and save them but short of going there after school and taking them, I don't know what to do.