So confusing. With OW Tuesday, invites me out for drinks with friends tomorrow. DS is gone this weekend and we will be alone together. He hasn't asked for a seperation/divorce yet. Just won't give up OW. What does just hanging out look like?
T: 28 years M: 23 years D19 S15 OW Discovery: 3/6/11
So nervous about this weekend. We didn't have a very good sex life the last few years and with me on Zoloft, I do feel much better about myself and my GAL. He is noticing and initiating conversation and still is open to physical contact. Would a good 180 be physical contact because I'm certainly up for it, but don't want to appear pathetic or like I'm competing with OW. Good idea, bad idea?
T: 28 years M: 23 years D19 S15 OW Discovery: 3/6/11
We meet our best couple friends for happy hour and dinner (they don't know we are having issues). These are the same people that I went out with by myself two weeks ago because H had a date with OW. H didn't ask what I did, so I didn't offer up. It gave me so much satisfaction that over dinner, H discovered we had gone out to happy hour the three of us and he asked...."where was I????" I just casually glanced over and said you were in "city". I could tell it sort of got to him. But he mentioned nothing later.
This weekend he did all the laundry and did much around the house. On Saturday he invited me to go to lunch with his parents after he ran many errands. I asked him if he wanted to do anything Saturday night. He didn't, so I went out with friends and had a great time. Sunday, we went out to lunch as a family, I had a lovely conversation with DD who was home from college (she knows), we had some parenting things we had to do together and all seemed like what we "used" to be like.
Then, last night, he got distant again. He's traveling today so I'm certain he is meeting up with OW.
I haven't looked as good as I do right now in years as I'm training for three 5K's. I'm sure he doesn't think this will stick because I've had weight issues all my life, but no, this one is going to stick because I'm actually feeling like my old self again. The weight of the world off my shoulders in that I'm not solely responsible for his happiness. I'm responsible for mine. His issues are exactly that.
We've not had any relationship talks since his last IC. I'm sort of in a holding pattern in that right now I feel like if he wants out so badly, then go. I'm not going to do it for you. Also, my IC recommended to just not do anything but work on myself for at least 3 months. Then re-evaluate. I just thank goodness every day that I found this board and the people here!
T: 28 years M: 23 years D19 S15 OW Discovery: 3/6/11
Well huge fight last night and he is moving out. Doesn't want a divorce, but won't stop seeing OW. I feel ok about it. Sad of course, but I shouldn't have to put up with him seeing OW while still in the house.
T: 28 years M: 23 years D19 S15 OW Discovery: 3/6/11
