Divorce As Catalyst For Excellence.

[Busting Mode]

I always think it's funny when people quote themselves and here I go again...

My actions are correlate to the way the circumstances are occurring for me. The circumstances are only occurring for me in language. When I put the language I've been using aside, anything is possible.

Including taking action to create more opportunities to speak to my wife in her primary love languages of quality time together and physical touch.

Including the possibility of putting all this blah blah blah aside and shakin' a leg with my wife.

Ya feel me, Dog?

Beyond knowing that she is unhappy, the WAW has 3 beliefs:

She believes she knows me.
She believes I will never change.
Because she believes she knows me and that I will never change, she believes she can never be happy with me.

My job is to patiently change all of those beliefs, because it is her beliefs that are driving her behavior.

So now I am listening and paying very close attention to her, which is what she always wanted.

And I am not forcing things anymore, which is also what she wanted.

Will it be enough? How knows? THAT ISN'T WHAT'S MOST IMPORTANT!

What's most important is the way I feel about myself while being committed to my path.

What I am up to is creating a life I love for myself regardless of whether or not she ever changes her beliefs about me.

I just happen to believe it will, and I am still committed to the path of creating more opportunities to speak to her in her primary love languages of quality time together and physical touch.

I am certain if I give her time she will want to explore that with me again, even after, and maybe even especially after being with another man, as long as I am confident and clear within myself.

But if I try to force her, or if I am not confident, or if I am unclear, then we will never stand a chance.

Thinking about all of this too much now, so I'm gonna take a break and get back to enjoying my day today.

Hope you all make the most of yours as well.