Sitting at home with myself, part 2

[Navyguy]

Well, last night was interesting.

W went over to a girlfriends house to hang out for awhile. When she got home I had already gone to bed, but I woke up when she came in. She went downstairs and so I went down to say good night. It was obvious that something was bothering her, so I asked what it was. She told me she doesn't know what to do about our situation. I asked her to elaborate a bit and she brought up 2 things:

1. She feels that I'm getting upset whenever she doesn't want to eat what the kids and I are having, and it makes her feel guilty. I told her that I'm not upset at all about it and I'm sorry if my body language said otherwise. I told her I will work on it.

2. She brought up our sleeping arrangement. She doesn't want to sleep in D5's bed every night because D5 will never go to sleep alone if that becomes a habit. Then she said that sleeping on the couch is really messing up her back. She said she had been fine with sharing the bed until I touched her arm almost 2 weeks ago, then realized that she was sending a mixed signal by doing so. She also told me she talked to her SIL who is studying to be a MC and told her we shouldn't be sharing the bed until W knows for sure that she wants to work on things between us. I told W that she's welcome to share the bed, but I'm not going to push her in any way. I understand where she's at and I don't think that sharing the bed is a mixed signal.

I really dont know how to handle this. I've been considering offering her the bed and I would sleep somewhere else. Is this just a normal pull back?