Hi, it is difficult to over estimate the effect that being depressed has, plus your annual scan is coming up. Many people in MLC have a terror of abandonment, and a serious illness in their partner can seem like being abandoned, and create a hostile or withdrawing reacton. This is at a very deep level. I am sure that my first bout of cancer started by xh's steps towards MLC, and getting it again + his mother's sudden death last year, has prolonged his MLC. He did show some signs of ermergin about 16 months ago, but is now deep deep within the tunnel, probably deeper than ever before.
Your h is probably dealing with your health issues in a typically MLC way - denying his real feelings, which inspire terror in him, and burying himself in work. Just a thought.
Doesn't alter the fact that he is withdrawn and you are facing all of this alone.
