This is new territory for me. Last time I went pretty much straight to NC and then to divorce.

I have no idea how to handle this. Do I pull away or do I start to encourage touch and couple type behaviour? I'm struggling to find objective evidence of which is better. Sleeping seperate has settled her down a bit. But she didn't recoil to me kissing her forehead and often asks to sit on the sofa with me. She doesn't say "I love you" but didn't seem to be disgusted with me saying it this morning, in fact she did that 'hold hand as long as possible whilst walking away' thing.

Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.