Hi OMW, just wanted to drop by and give you some support as you have been doing for me.
It's a long road. You are doing fine. You are right to be proud of yourself. Having been through D I can honestly say that the process although not always positive in terms of fixing the marriage, is definitely always positive in making you a better, stronger person.
As a result of my DB efforts the first time around, I know this time, even though I'm only trying to fix a relatively short relationship, that I will survive whatever happens. I also know that I'm a decent person, worthy of a great partner. I fixed the personal flaws I discovered last time. This time I'm on new ground as I was never anywhere near having friendly affection with the XW (she ran off with my work colleague).
You will reach a point of calm and happiness with yourself and your sitation in time too.
It sounds like you are a great Dad. And that is THE most important thing. And it does sound like you may be starting to detach.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
