Yes, I have gone dim with my XW. We have 2 kids so I still have contact with her every few days. We both share duties of getting the kids to all their sports etc.
In the last month I have been out with my XW and the kids 4 times. She has initiated each time, as the kids were with me at the time. I don't think my XW is doing it to spend time with me. I think she just wants the kids to see we all get along well.
I will say it's still a roller coaster of emotions. I do miss her, but many times think I miss the thought of her and being a family. It's lonely for a lot of us on here. One day you are a family and then one day you are sitting alone with no one.
I have made a really great life with my kids now. We do everything together and travel a lot. I don't even know if my XW would even fit into our new lifestyle anymore.
On a side note my EX has become so skinny from working out and changing her diet that I have become worried. I really can't do anything about it but hope that it get's better. I have a feeling that she may be starting to struggle.
Anyway, sorry I have not posted in a long time. I am just living day by day. Some days are good and some days are not as good. I will encourage anyone to try to pull back from their Xs. It really is better and makes it easier to deal with. We all end up doing this when we are finally strong enough. I just wish I was strong enough to have done that when this first happened 3 years ago. When I do go out with my XW and our kids I find I am sad for about 24 hours afterwards. But I guess I still do it with the "hope" that something may change for her.
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
