H OW has so much baggage

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Ugh-I can truly feel for you in your sitch.
Welcome to the BB, you will find a lot of support here.

As for the OW, I don't know if talking to him about her is going to get him out of his fog. I mean, if his family hasn't been able to get through to him, chances of you doing it are slim.

It is good that you read the book. Keep reading it and applying the techniques to your life. Make sure you GAL & work on your 180's. At least for your own sanity.