OW has way too much baggage

[saffie]

Your H has to find out for himself that OW is not a good catch; you can't explain that to him - he won't listen. He will be in that emotional fog that doesn't let him see clearly at the moment. You may just have to give this time.....which I know is hard.

Just try and take some comfort in the knowledge that usually they do trade down when an OW is involved.....and often they do see the light.

Concentrate on looking after yourself and your D - in doing that you will show your H you are the better option. Try and remember who you used to be when you both fell in love. Also, do this for yourself and your D.....not to just try and attract your H back. Changes have to be genuine - the WAS seems to be able to detect changes that are made in order to just try and attract them back home.