I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[ClingingToHope]

More junk. I get home with the girls today and there's a letter from my L. On Tuesday, her attorney shows up at the status hearing and asks to set a trial date.

Everything is decided and he wants a trial.

My attorney says instead let's set up a pre-trial conference with the judge and he can give guidance how to settle this.

I read it a few times. A trial? For what? More money.

Finally, I call STBXW and tell her what the letter says. She doesn't know what a trial means. I tell her it means we have to have depositions, both go to court, take the stand and a judge decides.

I tell her I don't get it, everything is decided. Why do we need a trial.

She tells me it isn't what she wants and she doesn't know what her attorney is doing.

I responded that I haven't wanted to say anything, but I checked her attorney out and he's the worst one in town. He rarely gets clients and when he does he sits and sits and sits so he can have multiple status hearings and collect fees. Now, he's trying to get a trial when there's nothing left to discuss. That would cost both of us at least $500.

She says she'll call him.

Of course, after the call I'm satisfied and disappointed. Most of me just wants this over. I can't stand this hanging over my head. Then there's the 1 percent that won't die that hopes she'd say, "well... I've been thinking about things ...."

That may never go away. But I need to move forward on the bankruptcy, dating, saving ... all of that and I can't until this is over.