Brief Journal Update. W mentioned the other night that she has spoken to a few divorce mediators recently, our state doesn't require lawyers to have a divorce. One of her GFs used a mediator and it was a low cost/ low drama alternative to having 2 lawyers slugging it out in court. My W seems to be looking for the path that would be least stressful for her, and less draining on our limited resources, but I resist the urge to try to figure out what is really motivating her. I have learned that it's pointless for me to try to figure out what is going on inside her head, and the reasons for her actions. She did say that she didn't want to spend money that is needed for the kids on lawyers. She has also said that she doesn't want to attend MC because that would be a waste of money. I think she has a lot of guilt for mistakes she has made in the past that caused some financial damage to us as detailed in my initial thread.
Bboom,
A mediator can be a good way to go, to help the two sides reach fair compromises, and to "speak reason" to each party when perhaps they're being UN-reasonable. But even with a mediator, it is highly recommended that you STILL have your own atty retained, and that you absolutely should run the final agreement past him/her before signing it.
"Money that should be spent on the kids" is a red herring: your state will enforce a strict formula for child support anyway. Your wife is just wanting this to all be easy, and needs to put on her BGPs.
