Standing up to the punches

[Redo]

I think it is so funny. We were married for 11 years and lot of stuff happens. It is very strange that only after wife started the divorce process did i actually start looking back at how i let myself get treated by wife and her family. It is pretty bad actually.

my MIL has a habit of fainting when something overwhelms her. Wife has always blamed me as a main reason her mom faints because she says that i cause too many issues in the family. I never took it offensively. But now i am.

Every single time we had an issue and when wife told her parents, her parents would call me up and tell me to 'just adjust and not rock the boat'. I always compiled. Now i am thinking that was the reason my wife thought that everything she did was the right thing.

Even when i told my wife to just show some respect for my parents in front of them and if she wanted, she could bit*h about them with me, she preferred to treat them crappy, told me to get used to it and later on told me that i could not get depressed about these issues. )&*)&*???

I guess that is why I am rethinking if i should even bother. I read that some qualities of people just don't go away. I am working on all my issues. But if wife refuses to even recognize these issues let alone work on them, then whats the point?

I dunno. I am rambling right now.