Can I say that it is not the parents that are causing this? You already know that the blame lies squarely with him though. His choices. He decided regardless of the direction he got.
ajm .. for the life of me, i can't seem to see this. it's almost as if i refuse to believe this. you are not the first person to say it .. but it doesn't sink in. and i want to believe you but i feel as if there is a barrier that is preventing me from believing this.
i know that if i do believe this .. i would truly let go. i honestly don't know what it will take.
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And my physical safety? I really am concerned. My thought is that now that she has time to focus on something other than her school, that she'll use that time and energy to rage against me.
i don't get it .. why are they (your w, my h) so angry? we didn't ask for this. they started it .. if it doesn't run smoothly or the way they wanted it to be, is it really our fault?
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The daily barrage? That's another story. I do feel I have to defend myself, except that my method is that of Ghandi - passively. There is no benefit to working hard at defending myself. What happens happens. But I do have to watch out for the kids well being.
that's very unfortunate. but yeah, i understand the daily barrage. when we were still living together, it was just that .. you never know what you were going home to .. i feared going home. but he convinced his therapist that i was abusive and a threat to his well-being. i walk into the same room as him and i cause his blood pressure to jump .. so i'm a threat. i don't have to say anything .. just my presence is enough to get me labelled as 'abusive'.
