You are here with plenty of others in the same predicament. It's a horrible place to be, but better for you that you have found this place and these people.
First, you never have to lose hope. The only thing you can control is yourself and your actions. Regardless of your wife's actions, papers served, whatever, you have control of yourself.
Second, take care of yourself. Don't throw yourself body and soul into this and forget you have to take care of YOU.
There's almost always someone here on the board to listen to you when you feel like talking, or screaming, or ranting.
Take care.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
