Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 4

[OnMyWay]

It is one of those things where I was expected to pick up in the hints, I guess. Maybe she tried to bring up the things that bothered her, but I did not pick up on the seriousness of them. I will take my responsibility in the matter. In the end, I thought our relationship was pretty good except for the minor problems that I expected every marriage to have. Sure there were communication struggles and arguments over minor things. I never thought our M was in danger. Both of us come from stable households. Neither of us have a history of cheating. We had talked about our disdain for divorce and infidelity numerous times while we dated and married. Maybe I was naive. Maybe I was simply blindsided.

Same for me. I've since learned my WAW was speaking in code the whole time, and me being male, didn't know the secret handshake or use the proper decoder. I should've caught on when I found my standard joke with friends was "Don't assume if you tell my wife that I'll automatically know. She thinks I'm Kreskin and should just know without actually telling me anything." My own humorous sense of irony, as that seems to be exactly what she thought - HOW could I have NOT known?

Hurts my brain just thinking about it.

Interesting about the MC. I see a potential future in your posts for me - if I make it that far. She goest to IC soon. I'm not going to say anything, but assume at some point, a couples session or two will be required, so keep posting.