Sparks I wish I could get her to counseling but she refuses. She had a pretty bad counselor as a teen and shuns all now. Even marriage counselors.
After casually joking about sex she mentioned it could only happen if she was liquored up otherwise she was not comfortable. She asked what if I can never get over this. To which I said these things take time..... She has a hard time being intimate with me at all levels despite being back, and this is seriously hampering reconciliation.
