I remember my sister ringing me from London and saying 'Hey there is this cool site that will help you "
I was in the depths of dispair, depressed just immobile.
I had, had an affair, then lied about it, minimised it... you name it, all the text book rantings of a snapped infidale wife.
He left, came back, moved in and moved out and I did everything I thought i could to save my marriage and more importantly, my family. All the wrong things. Then i found there was another woman.
The heartache was real. i was physically ill, my eyes were lifeless, the weight fell off me and I stumbled around looking for help.
This site was it. I posted and read and hoped and prayed. I did everything I thought was right. i bought the books. I realised it was okay to get help and I took the anti depressants prescribed and I GAL.
Well it took 2 - 3 years but i am here to tell you that i am happy. I never saved my marriage and I still cry for the loss of what could of been good if treated when the symptons got to the point where i felt i had nothing to loose in the arms of another man. I am sad for my kids that now have to consider the feelings of 2 individuals and not the family as a whole. BUT i believe through my healing and there pain comes there belief that no matter what happens in life, you can survive. They got strength.
If i could turn back the clock i still would. I dont speak to my x - he is still angry. He lives with the OW and his kids have barely anything to do with him. Terrible loss for both parties and I hope that , that will change.
The divorce was ugly but neccessary.
But today I am happy. i have done things that I would never of done inside a marriage and thety have been good character building things. i feel more alive than ever before and I feel my possibilities are both endless and mine.
everyone can get to this point. Trust and believe it and work at new things - other words GAL. It works.
