Won't stand for a broken family

[Timetotry]

I finished reading DR and DB and I am hoping some of you out on the board can help me determine if what I am defining is in line with what I should be doing.

Immediate goals
-I want him to acknowledge our anniversary and make a pleasant family evening as well as the next morning of Easter (since he asked to be over and spend the nite sleeping downstairs but I know with his flirting/requests lately he will want to come upstairs for a bit for physical "contact time")
-I want him to have daily communication with me with no negative comments and continue to improve family time

Intermediate Goals
-I want him to start MC and own some blame
-I want him to start to spend one on one time with me and have fun… rekindling

Long Term
-I want him to move back home and consider us married again
-I want us to spend one nite a week for ½ hour discussing anything that may be bothering each other
-I want us to spend at least 3 nites of quality time together-at least 10 minutes of one on one daily talk and preferably at least two date nites a month

Two things we need to build: Trust and Empathy
A) To trust in the relationship and each other
b) Understand how each other feels-be in their shoes

Goal dealbreakers:
1) Me starting another relationship and no longer wanting to be married (not looking for that anytime soon)

I need to start thinking like him, not how I would think he thinks...HARD TO DO!!!
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H:41
W:44
D1:18
D2:16
S:12
D3:7
T:20
M:18..soon
Bomb:1/5/11
Sep:2/18/11
No D filed yet; just threats

“It is what YOU make it”!