Wow - that's poltergeist territory you're in!

Now - I hate to bring this up but - things are all hunky dory until she goes away on a trip and comes back...reserved. You've been here long enough to know this probably translates into - she went away on a trip and met a guy. frown

But hey - that's why they call it "Dating", right? This is the time to find out those kinds of things about a person, and for you and them to see if there's someone better out there. The problems really arise when someone waits until AFTER marriage to pull this stuff.

She was a good transitional relationship - enjoy it for what it was and move on.