Sparks - it's rough, just keep working through it and doing the best you can. I would guess your wife is pissed because she knows she wants more time with son and you may have scooped her, she's mad that she walked away and now sees she maybe had a good thing, she's mad because she doesn't know what to do and you/therapy are just confusing her more, and like you, she's probably thinking, why did it take all this crap for us to start really talking and listening.
My suggestion is maybe less talk, more action and listening. You sound worn out and it's easy to get talked in circles till you don't know what message you are sending. And I think you can tell her that...hey, you're pissed no matter what I say or do, I think I need a break....don't say it that way, but give yourself some distance and space. She needs to figure out which team she's on so you can make some decisions.
Thanks, AJ. I think you present some great advice. I have been finding myself sliding a little lately. I have also been allowing my wife's anger start to get to me. Not that I am returning the anger with my own, but I have been internalizing the messages presented as well as the meaning of the anger ion general. That's a tough place to be, and I know that my focus needs to be on me right now. She is not in a place right now that is open to healing.
I am going to follow this entry up with a couples therapy journal. More time spent on the topics discussed last week. I am really letting myself feel down right now concerning the message she is giving me. Need to pick my head up. Work on detaching even more right now.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
