Not an expert on this, but I just want to point out that she gets from him what she "thinks" she can't get from you. I'm sure you have heard terms such as "he understands me" this is really her saying "I don't think you Understand me". Make sure you validate her feelings. The best Piece of advise I read was " her feelings are her reality, no matter how illogical it seems to men." OM is most likely validating these. I found that in situations like this with my W the first opportunity you will get is when she complains about you. Let her know you understand why she may feel that way, and use this as an opportunIty to pull a 180. If you won't "listen" OM will.
