DMIL, it only stops when you decide it stops. When you no longer listen. When you no longer pay attention. In my state, the wedding ring is marital property. The engagement ring is hers because it was given prior to the union.
according to stbxh, the rules don't apply to him. given prior to the union? so what? he believes that because he paid for it, it belongs to him. doesn't matter when it was given, where, why, how .. doesn't matter. he bought it with his money, then he believes it's his. however, gifts given to him from me are his to keep. where they get this bizarre logic is beyond me.
to him, if i believe these items belong to me, then i must be the biggest f*ggin' gold digger who walked the face of the earth. the more reason to divorce me. is it my fault that the state laws are the way they are? apparently so.
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Her anger is incredible. Rage would be a better term. But that's ok. It's not me. I'm not angry. I'm not mad. I'm not defensive. I'm sleepy, but that's different
rage is the correct term. i know exactly what you mean. he's angry with me because of the state laws on divorce. is it my fault they are written that way? he didn't read the rules before dropping the d-bomb. it's like he was hoping that dropping the d-bomb was going to hurt me. only to find out that the divorce laws would not work in his favor and now he hates me even more. as if i wrote the rules!
the division of property was extremely painful. oh the greed on his side .. greed combined with rage. i've never been put through so much pain. whatever i got, was what he did not want and what he wanted to give me. i had no say.
i've been called every name in the book. my stbxh is the male version of your w. and i sit here wondering .. what the heck are you so mad about? you wanted this!
when i do get mad, it's more because he's dragging this out longer than he needs to. if he wanted out, then just get it over with and end it. we have no kids to fight over. the law says i'm entitled to 50% of the home. well .. he says no and he'd like to take it all the way up the chain of court to fight it. he won't stop until i am living in a cardboard box under a bridge.
and like you .. i'm tired. i'm a simple girl who didn't need a lavish lifestyle to be happy. i just wanted my h's love and companionship. that's all. i think i'd make a great partner in crime. the adventures i've had with him were great memories for us. i wanted more of that. but his parents got in the way. drove a wedge between us. and now .. they are instructing him to "finish her!"
