She has mentioned in the past that she feels like a burden on me and she needs to be independant to find herself. I suspect her idea of independant includes living an unrestricted single lifestyle.
Wow! Sounds very familiar. I think my W is starting to figure out it ain't gonna happen this way. I think she needs to take some of the responsibility for the kids. I also think she's going to find that she is going to end up having even more responsiblity and less independence.
No question she is thinking very irrationally right now. Definitely working in ready-fire-aim mode. Continue to work on your GAL, because you are in competition with her idealized lifestyle, like it or not. When she asks about her game plan, feel free to help step her through it, but keep your distance at the same time.
