No one ever said being a single parent is easy. Reality will set in her when she starts to make big girl decisions. Finding a new place to live, supporting herself and the kids, adjusting her schedule to fit the needs of the kids, etc..
Don't be a rescuer. In fact start planning the things about for yourself. What kind of schedule would you llike to have with the kids? Start there and propose your thoughts about it to her.
The kids are staying in the house with me. I'm fine with that and confident I can be a good single parent. I will need to work out a plan/schedule so she stays involved with them and bears an appropriate level of the parenting duties. I think part of the reason my W want's to move out is so she can stand on her own 2 feet. She has mentioned in the past that she feels like a burden on me and she needs to be independant to find herself. I suspect her idea of independant includes living an unrestricted single lifestyle.
You are correct. I need to start planning these things. When I asked my W what her game plan is she said "I don't know, what do you think?". It's obvious she hasn't done much planning or considered all the details, she just has a notion of some future state where she is happy and everything is fine. From what I have learned on this forum the WAW rarely considers the details of the decisions & consequences as they move from their unhappy place to the happy destination off in the distance.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
